Breaking down..

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winterc0ld

Discussion Starter · Jul 10, 2010

I have forced myself to the point where whenever i exert strength even when mopping the floor i would have brownish stains.. And my dogs need me to mop the floor at least once to twice a day.. I really cant take it anymore, and i cant find at least a fosterer for Boy as i cant take his poo smell i will vomit each time i smell

Imagine a pregnant woman with a huge tummy who has to clear and vomit at the same time.. And i really cant cope anymore.. Hes sterlised and microcipped but no one is willing to help.. i dont know how long i can take it anymore..

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Cheri

· #2 · Jul 10, 2010

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Hang in there hun. Is there a way you can put him outside safely? I have a fenced area where our small dogs can go. The rest of my yard isn't fenced properly for small dogs and they'll get out.
Vi isn't fully house trained and I wake up to the occasional poo on the living room carpet. I used to have baby gates up but my kids broke them both climbing over them to get in and out of the rooms. Anyway, I feel your frustration, and I can't imagine doing that while pregnant!
I hope you can find someone to help!

momtoboo

· #3 · Jul 10, 2010

I'm sorry,that must be so overwelming for you. Do you have a relative to help out? Are there rescue groups where you are? I feel bad for you but all I can do is send you a hug & hope you can find someone to rehome Boy with. :grouphug: You've certainly got too much to deal with right now & it's taking a toil on you.

winterc0ld

Discussion Starter · #4 · Jul 10, 2010

momtoboo said:
I'm sorry,that must be so overwelming for you. Do you have a relative to help out? Are there rescue groups where you are? I feel bad for you but all I can do is send you a hug & hope you can find someone to rehome Boy with. :grouphug: You've certainly got too much to deal with right now & it's taking a toil on you.

:grouphug: I really dont have anyone else who can help out except my husband and it doesnt help that he works long hours, im 30 weeks pregnant as of now..

And each time i exert strength not only brownish stains but pelvis pain.. i didnt dare to openly post in local forums as everyone will feel that im "irresponsible".. As much as i hate to rehome him but i know he will have a better life with others and i cant keep forcing myself anymore..

I have no wish for flaming wars thus i tried to post anoyomas once but no one is able to help.. Im really helpless to what i can do

I have approached all rescue groups and all they do is to tell me that im the owner i must be responsiblef or him and that he has a owner thus they cant take him in.. They are literally forcing me up the wall, and long term boarding is so expensive that i cant afford while another baby is on the way..

As evil as i sound i even thought of putting him at SPCA, where i know most likely he will be pts but how can i bear to!! He has been with me for 3yr+.. He is my baby! How can i pay money to let a stranger put him to sleep when he is healthy and everything.. sigh, all i wish is for a miracle now..

And when i checked forum there were alot of mongrels awaiting adoption and fostering.. i really dont know what else i can do :smcry:

Cheri said:
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Hang in there hun. Is there a way you can put him outside safely? I have a fenced area where our small dogs can go. The rest of my yard isn't fenced properly for small dogs and they'll get out.
Vi isn't fully house trained and I wake up to the occasional poo on the living room carpet. I used to have baby gates up but my kids broke them both climbing over them to get in and out of the rooms. Anyway, I feel your frustration, and I can't imagine doing that while pregnant!
I hope you can find someone to help!

I dont have a yard.. If i have it would be much easier

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Alice Ana

· #5 · Jul 10, 2010

i only read the first post, so i hope i'm not repeating something that someone said...

i would stick it out for as long as you can. find a family member or close friend to take them.. your decisions now may just be out of frustration and you could really regret it in the future. think carefully about this! everything may be adding up because of the pregnancy.. just try to stick it out *hug*

michellerobison

· #6 · Jul 10, 2010

Hopefully someone else in Singapore will be close by. Might be best to rehome him,once the baby comes,if your husband works long hours,a new baby is a lot of work,it may be too much to care for a baby and a dog.
Hopefully no one will lay blame,if you feel it's too much and you want to rehome him,you know in your heart you're doing what's best for all...no reason for anyone to blame or flame.
I hope you can find someone to help.

maltlovereileen

· #7 · Jul 10, 2010

winterc0ld said:
:grouphug: I really dont have anyone else who can help out except my husband and it doesnt help that he works long hours, im 30 weeks pregnant as of now..

And each time i exert strength not only brownish stains but pelvis pain.. i didnt dare to openly post in local forums as everyone will feel that im "irresponsible".. As much as i hate to rehome him but i know he will have a better life with others and i cant keep forcing myself anymore..

I have no wish for flaming wars thus i tried to post anoyomas once but no one is able to help.. Im really helpless to what i can do

I have approached all rescue groups and all they do is to tell me that im the owner i must be responsiblef or him and that he has a owner thus they cant take him in.. They are literally forcing me up the wall, and long term boarding is so expensive that i cant afford while another baby is on the way..

As evil as i sound i even thought of putting him at SPCA, where i know most likely he will be pts but how can i bear to!! He has been with me for 3yr+.. He is my baby! How can i pay money to let a stranger put him to sleep when he is healthy and everything.. sigh, all i wish is for a miracle now..

And when i checked forum there were alot of mongrels awaiting adoption and fostering.. i really dont know what else i can do :smcry:

I dont have a yard.. If i have it would be much easier

Seriously - you're thinking of putting him in a place where he would likely (according to you) be put to sleep because of his lack of potty training (who's fault is that?) OMG

that is just about the awfulest thing I've heard.

Instead, why not shift your gears and work on potty training him rather than continuing to mop his accidents each day? I'm guessing it's just one dog you're having problems with since you are only talking about rehoming one or putting him to sleep.

Do you know the crate train method of potty training? Here is a good article : House Training Puppies & Dogs. Easy Steps to Potty Training Additionally, if you work on his potty training skills, you won't be having to mop so much since he will be contained as you work on getting his potty schedule down and then supervising him to be sure he is going where you want him to go.

I am not condemning you for having an unreliably potty trained dog, because we have one here. But I recognize it is MY fault for not ensuring her training is proper and it is MY responsibility to fix it. I followed the guideline I posted above and it worked very well...she was doing great until yesterday. Between yesterday and today there were three pee accidents. So she goes back on the training routine. No more cleaning up accidents/reinforcement of potty habits.

I read somewhere that lack of good potty training is the number one reason dogs end up in shelters - just heartbreaking really.

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michellerobison

· #8 · Jul 10, 2010

My 2 adoptees were going to be euthanized due to lack of potty training.. Took time to break them,they're such sweet doggies,I had to try. They do pretty good,rarely an accident,if there is,it's my fault.

Matilda's mommy

· #9 · Jul 10, 2010

I know your hormones are all over the place, but it isn't the dogs fault, dogs will be dogs and when they need to potty they willl go wherever if not trained. how many animals do you have? I see many on your siggy, I think maybe you just have to many and now with a year old and a new baby almost here it's just come to a head. Please don't take boy's life, he's innocent in this, my heart breaks, I just have to say a prayer for boy

Heavenly Father, you ask us to come to you with every request, Lord open a door so this precious little dog will find a home with people who can care for all his needs. In Jesus name I pray. Amen

poochie2

· #10 · Jul 10, 2010

OMG you thought of putting him to sleep cause of his potty accidents? Oh no that is so sad.
Pregnancy and hormones do make things look a lot more difficult but please try to get some sort of help....you really need a helping hand.

totallytotontuffy

· #11 · Jul 10, 2010

I sincerely hope that some of our singapore sm'er's might have a suggestion that will help you. I know you are trying your best to do the right thing.

bonsmom

· #12 · Jul 11, 2010

If you are spotting you need to call your doctor. It may be as simple as needing a little extra progesterone, but it needs to be investigated by a physician.
As for your doggies, could you hire a teenager to come in once a day to do a little cleaning? Many teens might be willing to help out for the chance to help someone in need and a little pocket change. Sometimes the smallest bit of help can change a mood in a big way. Please take care of yourself and your baby. Keep us updated.

Maglily

· #13 · Jul 11, 2010

it's is frustrating for sure.. I don't have much advice to offer...how about hiring a dog trainer to visit and help you. Even if it was just one session ?

iheartbisou

· #14 · Jul 11, 2010

Do you have an Ayi? If not, I would get one, even part-time- to help you out while you're pregnant.

How long have you had the dog? Was he a rescue? I would also try to potty train the dog before getting rid of him, maybe if you can't get a trainer in, read some articles online on how to do this.

good luck!!

kissmyhorse

· #15 · Jul 11, 2010

Hey guys.. lets get something straight real quick. She does NOT want the dog put to sleep! She obviously loves and cares for him. As she stated, she does not want to surrender him to the SPCA for fear that he may be euthed. I think shes doing pretty darn as best she can right now. Yes she may have bitten off a bit more than she can chew, but havent we all been there?:thumbsup: This is not the time to blame and bash, this is the time when her SM family needs to help and support her through this rough spot.:grouphug:

To Wintercold:
Hon, if you're seeing physical effects from exerting yourself you need to 1) stop straining yourself immediately and 2) make an appointment with your physician. Nothing is more important right now than the health and wellbeing of your baby. As much as we love and cherish our dogs, in reality they need to come second after our "human" family.:sLo_grouphug3: Your health and your babys health come first. If that means keeping Boy in a crate most of the day or rehoming him with a friend or rescue, then sobeit. You have obviously given yourself fully to helping this pup and of course you dont want to see anything bad happen to him, but a crate isnt so terrible and another home isnt so bad either. Take care of yourself and your family first please. You can get through this!:hugging:

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MalteseJane

· #16 · Jul 11, 2010

I don't know where you all are getting that the dog is not potty trained. If he goes on paper in her appartment, she still needs to pick up the poop (even outside you need to pick up the poop). Due to her pregnancy she cannot stand the smell and vomits from it. I agree with the others, if you start spotting and having pelvis pain you need to see your physician. I hope you can find help, you cannot continue as you do. You need to think about your health and the health of your baby.

Sandcastles

· #17 · Jul 11, 2010 (Edited)

I’m new here - and perhaps after this post, I may be asked to leave.

When you take on an animal it’s a COMMITMENT - sort of like school, a vocation, a husband, friends, and yes, a baby.

You wouldn’t discard your husband because he turned out to be a complete slob - you wouldn’t disown a friend because she/he became disabled - for G-d sake, DON’T take on the responsibly of an animal unless YOU can provide for that creature until "death do you part."

It’s NEVER the animals fault for improper training - it’s ALWAYS the owners lack of commitment. Granted some pets have medical issues that can cause problems - but 99 percent of the time it's the owner. This boils my blood!

Matilda's mommy

· #18 · Jul 11, 2010

kissmyhorse said:
Hey guys.. lets get something straight real quick. She does NOT want the dog put to sleep! She obviously loves and cares for him. As she stated, she does not want to surrender him to the SPCA for fear that he may be euthed. I think shes doing pretty darn as best she can right now. Yes she may have bitten off a bit more than she can chew, but havent we all been there?:thumbsup: This is not the time to blame and bash, this is the time when her SM family needs to help and support her through this rough spot.:grouphug:

To Wintercold:
Hon, if you're seeing physical effects from exerting yourself you need to 1) stop straining yourself immediately and 2) make an appointment with your physician. Nothing is more important right now than the health and wellbeing of your baby. As much as we love and cherish our dogs, in reality they need to come second after our "human" family.:sLo_grouphug3: Your health and your babys health come first. If that means keeping Boy in a crate most of the day or rehoming him with a friend or rescue, then sobeit. You have obviously given yourself fully to helping this pup and of course you dont want to see anything bad happen to him, but a crate isnt so terrible and another home isnt so bad either. Take care of yourself and your family first please. You can get through this!:hugging:

of course the baby comes first, she is a younger mom with not alot of support from her family. Wintercold, if I came across that I am juding you I'm not, you just have so much on your plate, you need help I do pray the dog gets a good home it will give you peace of mind. you have been thrrough so much with this pregency I WISH YOU ONLY THE BEST. I will keep you your baby, your husband and your little girl in my prayers. Please go see your doctor and let us know what's happening

Matilda's mommy

· #19 · Jul 11, 2010

Sandcastles said:
I’m new here - and perhaps after this post, I may be asked to leave.

When you take on an animal it’s a COMMITMENT - sort of like school, a vocation, a husband, friends, and yes, a baby.

You wouldn’t discard your husband because he turned out to be a complete slob - you wouldn’t disown a friend because she/he became disabled - for G-d sake, DON’T take on the responsibly of an animal unless YOU can provide for that creature until "death do you part."

It’s NEVER the animals fault for improper training - it’s ALWAYS the owners lack of commitment. Granted some pets have medical issues that can cause problems - but 99 percent of the time it's the owner. This boils my blood!

I agree with you, but she needs help now, she's at her wits end. she is trieing to find him a home, I think she's so tired and with her being so close to her baby's delivery this is just to much for her to deal with. if we all pray for her dog to find a good home it will happen and we ALL need to pray that God keeps her baby and her safe and she has a perfect delivery

Ladysmom

· #20 · Jul 11, 2010

kissmyhorse said:
Hey guys.. lets get something straight real quick. She does NOT want the dog put to sleep! She obviously loves and cares for him. As she stated, she does not want to surrender him to the SPCA for fear that he may be euthed. I think shes doing pretty darn as best she can right now. Yes she may have bitten off a bit more than she can chew, but havent we all been there?:thumbsup: This is not the time to blame and bash, this is the time when her SM family needs to help and support her through this rough spot.:grouphug:

You're new so you don't know the OP. I'd suggest you go back and read her posts over the years. She has a quite a history here on SM.

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