[Matilda's mommy]

ok I need to vent a wee bit, I'm one of these people who loves to act like a child at times,:chili: I love to have good ol' belly laughs, love to act silly around my grandkids, try and beat them at their computer games(spend hours trying to beat em lol) and they still win:HistericalSmiley:I love to sing silly songs I make up, I love having many nicknames for everyone I know:HistericalSmiley: I worry some but chose to leave it all at God's feet, trusting him with my life. I'm a simple person not the smartest cookie, but I have chosen to have fun through life, just being silly at times, well tonight I was in my backyard with Matilda, I threw her ball and said loudly "you go girl, you silly ol' squirell", my dh said I was way to loud, he gave me a dirty look and went in the house and closed the door.:huh: He looks at life so different from me, he always takes things very serious and never thinks good things come his way, he has told me to grow up and start taking life more serious.
I do take many things serious, just not the things he feels I should, geeze he can worry enough for both of us. I get judged alot by him, I just wish he would let down his wall and enjoy every moment we have here. One day we will all pass on, so why worry all the time? I want my life to be fun and full of love for others. Do you think I need to grow up?

 

[mysugarbears]

Paula, you keep being the same sweet wonderful person you are.:hugging: There need to more people like you that enjoys life and what it has to offer and not take every little thing so seriously. I love you girlfriend.

 

[silverhaven]

No you don't...... He married you because of the special positive person you are. You just need to remind him of that :tender: There are way too many serious people around. We need more light hearted ones like you.

My Mum and Dad taught me to be like that too. Mum does lots of silly things like pretending she has a huge limp to embarrass us, or trying on dozens of hats in a shop and killing herself laughing. I have an aspidistra plant that I bought when I was with her and it was really quite large, as I was going through the mall I caught someone with it and she laughed so hard that I kinda intentionally caught a few more people with it. :blush: I smile every time I look at it now. Dad never stops joking and teasing the ladies in the shops. Even Mum used to feel a bit embarrassed at how he carried on, but then one day she realized that everyone loved him.

So no, don't change :thumbsup:

 

[Miss_Annie]

Don't you dare change yourself.

I wish that I would've grown up with a grandma as fun as you. My grandma is an old school teacher that takes every aspect of life seriously. I haven't seen her in years. I never looked forward to seeing her when I was little, as she would never let us have any fun. She believed that children should be seen but not heard. You keep on being a wonderful grandma and keep enjoying life like every person needs to learn to do. Dh needs to take a page out of your wonderful, fun-loving book.

 

[Johita]

Heck no! You don't need to grow up- you're a very sweet and positive adult and have every right to enjoy life the way you are doing so. You're not hurting anyone at all and I think it's great that you have fun with life. I also tend to be the less serious half of my relationship and it's sad sometimes to not get a genuine laugh when I know I said something funny or am having a good time, but I'm learning to live with it and tell the story to others who enjoy my sense of humor. Keep on being yourself - I for one, think you are great

 

[Snowbody]

There is nothing like having a really huge belly laugh or even, dare I saw, a spit take or drink coming out your nose kind of hilarious, silly moment.:smrofl::smrofl: I used to love when my DS was a little boy and he'd get that big laugh that just came from the depths of his soul. They were magic moments. Thinking of my mom today and growing up, my family used to carry on so at our farm (movie night in the dining room) that one aunt or another would go tearing out of the room to the bathroom and tears would run down our cheeks .:HistericalSmiley::HistericalSmiley: We would play practlical jokes on everyone and oh how we laughed. It was all silly but now that I think back to it and my mom- those were some of the memories I treasure most.

A sense of humor, kindness and compassion are the keys to getting through life in my book with all three being a home run. If you've got one it's good, if you've got two it's great and if you've got all three you've got it made. You've got them all, Paula. So just enjoy life and let your DH do all the worrying. :thumbsup:

 

[Sandcastles]

I am so tired tonight - consequently I was not going to log on - that is, until I saw this post.

From the short time that I have been here, I’d say that you are just about as*perfectly* positive as a person can be - that is a compelling quiality.

Goodnight,

Allie

 

[njdrake]

Paula, NO NO NO you don't need to grow up. You already have but you are one of those exceptional people who have the best of both. Your husband should be glad you are the very way you are. You are wonderfully positive and refreshing. You should never worry about the little things and should enjoy every minute just like you're doing. I don't think he'll change but you shouldn't either!

 

[Rocky's Mom]

Who says you have to grow up???? Let me at him/her! I'll rip him to shreds...throw him around and then pounce on him.....all five pounds of me...let me at him, where is he?....grrrrrrrrrrr. :angry:
:good post - perfectYour a 10 in my book, don't change Paula ...love ya, Dianne

 

[momtoboo]

Can I come play at your house Paula? I use to be silly & have fun that way too,before I grew up. DH was always way too serious & didn't know how to loosen up.He'd give me "the look"& make me feel foolish. He's still the same, & I think I got more like him.Even my friends & family seem to be much more serious now. I miss those days of bellylaughs & acting silly & joking around. So don't change, enjoy life & be happy just being you.:grouphug:

 

[beckinwolf]

You better not grow up! I refuse to grow up. I love doing what some people would consider "childish". Sometimes there's nothing better than just having fun. I'm sorry, but your husband sounds like an old fuddy-duddy. Too bad he can't lighten up a bit. I'd say, just be yourself, and if he doesn't like it he can go in a different room or something. The world is just too dark and depressing to be serious all the time.

 

[Cheri]

Nope! I think HE does!

My husband is the same way. He can't understand the bond Vi and I have and why I act the way I do around her. He's from an old school family and he's almost 7 years older than me, so our views on things are different a lot of times.

You do your thing girl, just let what he says and does roll right off your back

 

[Lacie's Mom]

Paula, my friend, I'm right there with you and Jerry sounds the same as your DH. Sometimes he's fun and makes silly jokes, but for the most part he's very serious. His favorite topics are politics (which we don't agree on) and his health (which I'm tired of dwelling on). He loves to lecture everyone about his political views which is boring to all. And he gets upset over the most trivial things, imho.

Like you, I want my life to be fun and want to look at the silly/funny LITTLE things that make me happy. We all have enough stress and challenges in our lives and need to grab the fun in little things whenever we can. There's so much to enjoy in life and it's sad for those that don't -- not for us that do.

You keep right on being happy, silly, funny, sweet you and you'll live much longer than DH will.

I'll share a little story with you. Jerry had a confrontation with someone on Monday this week about Nellie (black lab). It was resolved and not really a big deal, but he stayed up all night thinking about it and by Tuesday morning he was so upset that he wanted to go back and have it out with the guy. Luckily he called me first and I talked to him, calmed him down and told him to "let it go" and move on with life. After talking to me he was much better. Guess I just don't understand why he makes mountains out of molehills.

Anyway, I do get critized when I'm being too boisterous in Jerry's eyes. It used to hurt me a lot, but now I just think -- "he's the one missing out on the fun -- not me".

Laughter is great for all of us, so if our DHs choose to be sour pusses, it's their loss. We just need to keep on having fun in life.

 

[jodublin]

Stay young at heart paula ..

 

[allheart]

Paula, I for one, feel so blessed to know you no matter in what capacity, and I see that I am not alone.

Ahhh they say oppisties attract, so just wave your soft loving happy heart his way and trust me some of it will rub off.

You are a delight to this forum, and I am sure to all you know you, especially DH.

I love you Paula, for who God blessed you to be, so why question that? Right?

Much love and many hugs. You bring hope and love to my heart imgaine what you bring fortunate enough to be close to you.

Love ya.

 

[Orla]

Nope!! That would be changing who you are and you are perfect!

Everyone needs to have fun and act like a child!

 

[Maglily]

Well I just bought a hula hoop so you can come here to play anytime. Don't change...as Christine said good things will rub off.

 

[CrystalAndZoe]

No you don't...... He married you because of the special positive person you are. You just need to remind him of that :tender: There are way too many serious people around. We need more light hearted ones like you.

My Mum and Dad taught me to be like that too. Mum does lots of silly things like pretending she has a huge limp to embarrass us, or trying on dozens of hats in a shop and killing herself laughing. I have an aspidistra plant that I bought when I was with her and it was really quite large, as I was going through the mall I caught someone with it and she laughed so hard that I kinda intentionally caught a few more people with it. :blush: I smile every time I look at it now. Dad never stops joking and teasing the ladies in the shops. Even Mum used to feel a bit embarrassed at how he carried on, but then one day she realized that everyone loved him.

So no, don't change :thumbsup:

Yeah! What she said! :yes:

 

[michellerobison]

My hubby can be so serious at times. He tells me he married me because I make him laugh and he can always count on me. He doesn't see the good things that come in his life sometimes,blinded by what he wants instead of seeing what he has. We both grew up poor so I'm thankful for what I have. I see so many who don't have...
Maybe it's a guy thing...
He's starting to loosen up a bit.Impending retirement is making him ancy.

Your body grows ,you can't control that but your spirit and joy of life doesn't have to...
I heard somewhere,to dance like no one is watching and sing like no one is listening,have fun in life don't worry about what others think...I figure as long as you aren't hurting anyone,why not?

 

[mfa]

Paula, you are grown up!! you have grown up into the positive, loving, playful, wonderful person that you are!! dont you change!!:chili::chili: