[Bijousmom]

Thank you so much for bringing this information to light. I am going to start this immediately with Bijou. His medication is helping with the panic feelings and I am going to start this. I am hoping that time, training and patience will fix this. He is preventing me from getting out of the house except when I have to leave. It isn't a good feeling to be a prisioner in your own home.

 

[Bijousmom]

Originally posted by LadysMom+Sep 28 2005, 11:51 AM-->

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@Sep 28 2005, 11:05 AM
Thank you so much for bringing this information to light.  I am going to start this immediately with Bijou.  His medication is helping with the panic feelings and I am going to start this.  I am hoping that time, training and patience will fix this.  He is preventing me from getting out of the house except when I have to leave.  It isn't a good feeling to be a prisioner in your own home.
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Oh, dear, that sounds like a very serious situation. Does he get agressive when you try to leave? You may want to consult a professional trainer.

I had a professional trainer once for a Springer puppy who growled if someone came near her food or toy when we first brought her home at 7 weeks. We didn't deal with and it got worse. She started biting my 3 year old son at 5 months old and getting really nasty with my ex-husband if he tried to get her off the couch, etc. The only one she was wonderful with was me as she apparently considered me her pack leader. Problem was she didn't want anyone near her pack leader! She actually bit my poor little son when he came up to me to ask me a question. She was lying at my feet and decided she didn't want to share me!

The trainer evaluated her, said she was an "alpha" dog, and worked with me on how to correct her behavior. She said that if if we didn't get it under control now it could escalate to a situation where Peggy would not allow us to leave the house if she decided she didn't want us to.

How old is he? What is his background? What kind of medication is he on?

In Peggy's case, my vet said her breeding was part of the problem. She came from a backyard breeder we found in a newspaper ad. Puppy mill (pet shop) puppies can have real problems with aggression when they mature at about 1 year since they were never properly socialized as puppies and taken from their mothers too soon to learn pack hierarchy.
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I didn't intend to hijack the discussion. My post discussion is under training, the topic of medication, but to answer your questions. Bijou is seven months old. He is from a show/breeder with beautiful dogs. I guess beauty is only skin deep. The dogs and puppies were kept together in cages. I purchased him when he was almost 5 months old. I suppose his problem stems from not enough contact with people rather than other dogs. The only issue that I thought about at the time was paper training since he only went in the cage. I couldn't stand the thought of him going back into the cage. I guess the saying is true that no good deed goes unpunished. I have never owned a dog like this. I guess this is why rescue dogs are around, for people who feel like me. I hired a trainer. I do the positive approach of being cheerful when I leave, because I am thrilled to be leaving. My daughter has him at her apartment in town right now to give me a break and it really is a break,

I feel so free.

 

[Bijousmom]

A certified trainer came on Monday, Pleasing Paws Training Company, and she showed me to shake his carrier with him in it and say quiet very softly and when that didn't work like she wanted she had me to spray him in the face three times each time he barked in the carrier and tell him quiet. Another suggestion that she gave would be to go in the room immediately with a pie tin against the front of the carrier and tell him quiet very softly again. I found her on the internet and the only thing that I learned is how to get rid of $40.00 in one hour. Waste of time and money. I could call another one but I don't want to go through this again.

 

[Bijousmom]

Originally posted by Lexi's Mom+Sep 28 2005, 03:25 PM-->

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@Sep 28 2005, 03:08 PM
A certified trainer came on Monday, Pleasing Paws Training Company, and she showed me to shake his carrier with him in it and say quiet very softly and when that didn't work like she wanted she had me to spray him in the face three times each time he barked in the carrier and tell him quiet.  Another suggestion that she gave would be to go in the room immediately with a pie tin against the front of the carrier and tell him quiet very softly again.  I found her on the internet and the only thing that I learned is how to get rid of $40.00 in one hour.  Waste of time and money.  I could call another one but I don't want to go through this again.
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AND SHE IS TRAINER?!?!? :new_Eyecrazy: I would suggested asking your vet for a recommendation. Also there are some people on here that can tell you what kind of person to look for. You want someone that rewards good behavior and doesn't punish for bad, I think it is called positive something.

Try the NILF program but if that doesn't work I would call around to the vet offices in your area and see if they can recommend someone. Even then try to interview them (ask a bunch of questions) before actually scheduling something. That way you may be able to avoid wasting your money on a quack.
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I called the Vet's office to see if they could reccommend someone and the person on the phone said that they have a Vet that specializes in Behavior Counseling. I just drove to the office to pick up a questionaire so I have eleven pages to fill out. I wish that my Vet had suggested this and I hope that it works or I will have more money down the tubes. This will be $125.00 for the office visit/consultation and 2 follow up phone calls to be scheduled and allotted 15 minutes.

Maybe this will work but I still want to try the NILF program and I could use the money on other things for him.

 

[Bijousmom]

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@Sep 28 2005, 07:38 PM
I called the Vet's office to see if they could reccommend someone and the person on the phone said that they have a Vet that specializes in Behavior Counseling.  I just drove to the office to pick up a questionaire so I have eleven pages to fill out.  I wish that my Vet had suggested this and I hope that it works or I will have more money down the tubes.  This will be $125.00 for the office visit/consultation and 2 follow up phone calls to be scheduled and allotted 15 minutes.

Maybe this will work but I still want to try the NILF program and I could use the money on other things for him.
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If I were in your situation I would likely go with the vet counseling, also. You've got to do something and that is the only solution that has any hope at this point. You're such a good mommy to do this for your baby. Some people might just leave him all the time and make him suffer. I sure hope it works out and you can start exepriencing the true joy of being a malt mommy!

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I thought that I was being a loving mommy trying to make him happy, but according to the NILF program I accomplished the opposite of what I wanted. I wanted him to have love and security that he didn't have before and I have made him more insecure. I guess I need to reverse the situation that I created by loving him too much.

 

[Bijousmom]

Oh, I don't mean that I would actually love him less. It's just that when he says jump I will no longer say how high?

I am now the master that loves him and not the other way around.

 

[Bijousmom]

I will look for the book on line right now. Thank you.

 

[Bijousmom]

Originally posted by LadysMom@Sep 29 2005, 09:37 AM
Amazon.com has it for less than $13. That's a lot less than most of us paid for it last winter!

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detai...=glance&s=books
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I just ordered Culture Clash and Power of Positive Dog Training. Both books looked good and the positive dog training book also addressed separation anxiety, not to mention that I can take advantage of the super saver option of free shipping on orders of $25.00 or more.