I'm sorry you feel that way, 99.9999999% of this site is about helping people,it can be to help them on housebreaking so they won't "get rid of Fido",helping on health issues,helping on grooming, donating to help a fluff in need, holding their hearts when they loose a fluff, and celbrating a new fluff. Many of us have our fluffy best friends through breeders or serendipity (rescue). Sometimes we're here to help someone at the end of their rope,so instead of hanging themselves and inadvertantly hurting Fido through their emotional state,we offer ideas.
To me "getting rid of Fido" is dumping them in the country side or putting one of those "free to good home" adverts,which really means free to anyone who will take them...
I don't suggest getting rid of "Fido" ,but if you think you can't take care of them or don't want them,rehoming them in another home isn't the worst thing you can do. Animals know when they're not wanted...I'm a "in it for the long haul" person. I believe a pet is a lifetime commitment.
It's like staying in a bad marriage for the kids,it hurts the kids..I have two rescues because of irresponsible people.I'm also the product of two people sticking out for the kids...until the state took us away because we were neglected and abandoned,then my mother committed suicide because people told her to stick it out.... A home w/o love isn't a home.....it's ****.
I also have a step son,who's mother was told to stick it out,she messed the poor kid up and he can barely function. We're there for him as much as we can....
You can't force someone to do what's not in their heart. Some people only have so much they can do,if they can't do it with full out unconditional love,they should let that pet or child go to some one who will love them as they deserve.
I'd rather someone give their fluff a new home where they'd be happy,instead of keeping them and feeling resentment and not giving them all the love they deserve.
Two of my fluffs came from a home where the first owner didn't want to give them up,so they left them in the walk in shower and hosed it out to clean it. They lived like this for 3 years. Then they ended up at a relative's house who did it as a favour but didn't want to do it,they lived in a horse barn for 2 years....Eventually they decided to euthanize them if they couldn't find a home.
Luckily I found out about it and took them in.I love them so much,I spoil them like they were here from Day One.
99% of the time,I suggest people stick it out,but having worked in an animal shelter,I've seen it hundreds of times,the animal is better off in a new home where it will be the center of attention that it deserves...instead of chained up to a dog house in the yard,or in a fenced enclosure ignored...once they're put outside,they're generally ignored...
If someone doesn't want to work with their pet,they won't,best not to force them out of guilt.
Unfortunately I see many couples get pets and when they have kids find out it's more than they can or want to deal with.
Sure it makes me angry but if I chastize them,they will most likely make a decision that will end up hurting the pet.
People do get flamed on forums. I had it happen when I first got here,because I called my adoptees "rescues".I figured they were rescues...I rescued them,but it wasn't the correct term. Sometimes words in print form seem harsher than they really are,since you can't see the face and it's emotion behind a post.
People are people,you have over 9,000 members,you're bound to have people w/ their own agenda pop up from time to time.
Sometimes we have people who pretend they have a dog and tell a crazy story,get folks riled up and we find out they just yanking our chains....
I hope you stay,but I won't force or guilt you,you have to feel comfortable in a forum. Forums need differing opinions or it becomes a stale useless vacuum....
If I see a post or thread I don't agree with,I ignore it,unless it's something that pulls at my heart like "getting rid of Fido because..." Sometimes I suggest stick it out and try,but sometimes I don't,just depends.
I'm glad you're here and posted your opinion. How do we know what a person feels if they don't post it.
Hope I didn't sound harsh,I wouldn't ostracise anyone for their opinion. We all learn from others' opinions,wether we agree or not...
Peace be with you.