Maltese Dogs Forum : Spoiled Maltese Forums banner
1 - 20 of 41 Posts

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
17,343 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I had a really sleepless night thinking about little Missy Marie. It was just such a sad situation. I know that Dr. Jaimir and everyone tried so hard to save her.:crying::crying:

I just keep wondering how she got so sick so fast. Would this have happened if her owner had been able to keep her and not have to place her at 10 years of age? Did this stress Missy Marie out too much? Did it happen because the owner didn't have the funds to take her to the Vet when she first got ill? And why wasn't the owner there to say good-bye to her?

Yes, this is something we might never know, but thinking of my 2 girls -- especially Lacie, I know that she would react very badly to a situation such as Missy Marie's and that she would probably get sick.

Lacie is so very attached to me and she hates changes and would be totally stressed out from being moved around from owner to owner.

Just thinking outloud, but I'm very sad about this special little baby.:smcry:
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
5,787 Posts
:smcry:I'm sad, too for Missy. :smcry: Sometimes things just touch me in my spirit and this was one of those times. Whether it was to help Missy or whether it was her mom really needing to know that people really do care - I don't know. It could have been someone watching from the "outside" that needed to see people reaching out and caring.

I just know that this situation REALLY moved me in my spirit to do something. I could be totally wrong - wouldn't be the first time - but I feel in my spirit that this situation had a lot more involved than just our monetary donations to help Missy. We may never know the whole story, I just thank God for the opportunity to reach out and be his instrument.

Linda
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
12,783 Posts
I have to admit to being a little angry with the person she was rehomed to, if that is what caused her initial decline, that stress. That is why I did not respond to her post in the Missy thread. (and I realize I'm being irrational, so my apologies for that!) I've had dogs poop on my bed and so now I put down an old sheet to protect my comforter, so for me to even think of giving up a precious baby because it pooped on my bed is not something that would ever happen.

You know what though? It's really easy to place the blame and the truth is - we will never know the whole story and that is fine. It's not really our business, to be honest. I just feel sad that Missy had to go through what she did and I'm glad we were able to help her.

I also wonder why her owner wasn't there with her at the end. Again though, not something that is really my business :(
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
21,482 Posts
I have to admit to being a little angry with the person she was rehomed to, if that is what caused her initial decline, that stress. That is why I did not respond to her post in the Missy thread. (and I realize I'm being irrational, so my apologies for that!) I've had dogs poop on my bed and so now I put down an old sheet to protect my comforter, so for me to even think of giving up a precious baby because it pooped on my bed is not something that would ever happen.

You know what though? It's really easy to place the blame and the truth is - we will never know the whole story and that is fine. It's not really our business, to be honest. I just feel sad that Missy had to go through what she did and I'm glad we were able to help her.

I also wonder why her owner wasn't there with her at the end. Again though, not something that is really my business :(
Good post, Stacy. I feel the same way ... wondering ... yet knowing it really isn't my business.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
24,178 Posts
:smcry::smcry:I had been busy with my granddaughter and could only do quick check ins on Missy Marie, but I prayed and prayed.

My heart ackes when I think of Missy Marie her story was alot like B&B's, :smcry: my B&B stayed with her daddy who was very old and ill, the daughter would go to the house once and maybe twice a day to let B&B out to go potty, why she never left a pee pad down I will never know, when the daddy passed away the daughter was suppose to keep B&B but felt it was a burden to her because she had two cats and B&B needed more attention, so she gives her to a lady, B&B was there for a few weeks I think, and one day snagged the lady's drapes, the lady took B&B to the groomers and left her there, the daughter told the groomer to find another home for her, she took B&B home with her, without a doubt God had his hand on B&B and us, we were grieving from Muffy's. we took Matilda to get groomed, after the grooming we went to pick her up, the groomer took me aside and ask if we would like another maltese. B&B was 10 years old, just like Missy, within two days we had our B&B, she was fearful and was grieving so, she grieved for months, would only eat treats, scared of everything, I'm certain she had beed abused, everytime we would touch her face she would pull back in fear, she pooed on our bed a few times, pooed on our carpet, peed on our carpet, etc, we just continued to LOVE her for who she was, this August we will have had B&B for two years, she is a delight to us, you would love her funny little personality:tender:
why I brought this all up is because I know how hard it has been for B&B to adjust and I wonder if the change started all of Missy Marie's problems, stress can cause many health issues. I will never understand why the owner wasn't there to hold Missy Marie at the end, she cared enough to get her help, I think it was her responsibility to be with Missy Marie when she needed her the most. I know I am judging and I have no right to do that BUTTTT I have been the one who has taken a old girl in when know one else wanted her and I will be with her holding her close to my heart when the day comes for her to go to the bridge. It's all about commitment and love
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
12,783 Posts
:smcry::smcry:I had been busy with my granddaughter and could only do quick check ins on Missy Marie, but I prayed and prayed.

My heart ackes when I think of Missy Marie her story was alot like B&B's, :smcry: my B&B stayed with her daddy who was very old and ill, the daughter would go to the house once and maybe twice a day to let B&B out to go potty, why she never left a pee pad down I will never know, when the daddy passed away the daughter was suppose to keep B&B but felt it was a burden to her because she had two cats and B&B needed more attention, so she gives her to a lady, B&B was there for a few weeks I think, and one day snagged the lady's drapes,:w00t::angry: the lady took B&B to the groomers and left her there, the daughter told the groomer to find another home for her, she took B&B home with her, without a doubt God had his hand on B&B and us, we were grieving from Muffy's. we took Matilda to get groomed, after the grooming we went to pick her up, the groomer took me aside and ask if we would like another maltese. B&B was 10 years old, just like Missy, within two days we had our B&B, she was fearful and was grieving so, she grieved for months, would only eat treats, scared of everything, I'm certain she had beed abused, everytime we would touch her face she would pull back in fear, she pooed on our bed a few times, pooed on our carpet, peed on our carpet, etc, we just continued to LOVE her for who she was, this August we will have had B&B for two years, she is a delight to us, you would love her funny little personality:tender:
why I brought this all up is because I know how hard it has been for B&B to adjust and I wonder if the change started all of Missy Marie's problems, stress can cause many health issues. I will never understand why the owner wasn't there to hold Missy Marie at the end, she cared enough to get her help, I think it was her responsibility to be with Missy Marie when she needed her the most. I know I am judging and I have no right to do that BUTTTT I have been the one who has taken a old girl in when know one else wanted her and I will be with her holding her close to my heart when the day comes for her to go to the bridge. It's all about commitment and love
paula, thank you for this. How lucky B&B is to have found you and how lucky Missy was to have found Jaimie as a vet.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
17,343 Posts
Discussion Starter · #9 ·
Paula -- you put into words exactly what I was trying to say. And I think about my 2 -- especially about Lacie and know what she would be like if she was put into this type of situation. I think that's why I so much wanted to adopt Sweet Pea. I know she had probably had a very good life until her owner died and then her world was turned upside down.

And -- I was hesitant to bring this up because I don't know the circumstances and I'm not trying to judge, but I'm just so very sad about all of this.

I, too, am glad I'm not the only one feeling this way.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,886 Posts
It really does feel like we all lost this precious little soul,doesn't it? Heartbreaking, so heartbreaking. :(
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
17,659 Posts
I have to admit to being a little angry with the person she was rehomed to, if that is what caused her initial decline, that stress. That is why I did not respond to her post in the Missy thread. (and I realize I'm being irrational, so my apologies for that!) I've had dogs poop on my bed and so now I put down an old sheet to protect my comforter, so for me to even think of giving up a precious baby because it pooped on my bed is not something that would ever happen.

You know what though? It's really easy to place the blame and the truth is - we will never know the whole story and that is fine. It's not really our business, to be honest. I just feel sad that Missy had to go through what she did and I'm glad we were able to help her.

I also wonder why her owner wasn't there with her at the end. Again though, not something that is really my business :(
Stacy, I am so glad you said what I was afraid to say. I stayed out of the thread for that reason.

I also didn't donate towards Missy vet bill. That's just my personal policy, though. I will only donate when a sick dog has been turned over to a rescue group. That's the only way to be sure that the dog will be placed in a home that will be able to care for the dog properly afterwards, both medically and financially.

Such a sad story.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
5,787 Posts
We may never know the circumstances of Missy's mom, but I wanted to share something.

A few years ago we hired a new employee who had never really worked in an office before much less an executive office atmosphere and she was a little intimidated to begin with just being there. Also, they were in dire straits financially - I mean really bad - about to lose their house so this job was a Godsend for her - but we didn't know this at the time of course.

Within the first week or so of her employment, one of our members noticed that she was crying at her desk (her desk was in the reception area and away from everyone else). When the member asked her why she was crying she finally told him that her precious Yorkie had become very ill and had to be put to sleep that day.

She was torn between asking for time off from a new job that she really needed and being there for her precious pup. Unfortunately, she was not there for her when the time came. Sometimes it is not so black and white about why people can or can't do things or the decisions they make.

I've since become good friends with her and if she ever made a decision like that again, I'd whoop her butt but good and she knows it. She never did get another pup and Katrina destroyed her house but they rebuilt and now they found out they rebuilt with that evil Chinese drywall so will need to basically tear it down and start over again. :( She could still use some prayers.

Sorry for the novel, just wanted to share this one person's perspective.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
24,178 Posts
I feel sorry for the owner she did try, and she took Missy Marie back when the other owner couldn't care for her, but I don't understand why she wouldn't want to be with her at the end. Maybe she didn't have a ride. Who knows, I am so glad Jaimie was the vet RIP MISSY MARIE

LYNN YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN A WONDERFUL MOMMY TO SWEETPEA, THERE WILL BE ANOTHER
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
12,783 Posts
Stacy, I am so glad you said what I was afraid to say. I stayed out of the thread for that reason.

I also didn't donate towards Missy vet bill. That's just my personal policy, though. I will only donate when a sick dog has been turned over to a rescue group. That's the only way to be sure that the dog will be placed in a home that will be able to care for the dog properly afterwards, both medically and financially.

Such a sad story.
You know, I probably shouldn't have said anything but I just couldn't keep my mouth shut, since Lynne brought this topic up. Even if Missy hadn't gotten sick, returning a pup for pooping on the bed still would not have gone over well with me. But again, it isn't my place to really pass judgement.

One thing I don't want to do is bring negativity to what this forum accomplished by helping this precious girl, so I'm sorry if I have. I think it's an amazing thing SM did to help, I'm just so sad about the results.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
7,741 Posts
I won't say my feelings towards the person who took her for 2 months but I know her mom really cared for her. I could hear it in her voice. She had called out clinic a week before she was real sick b/c she heard about me and she hoped I would take her in or know of a good home for her. I considered it but I was so busy at work I hadn't gotten a chance to post about her. The she became I'll and her mom knew she couldn't afford to bring her in so she waited to see if it would pass. From her past history she was well cared for being shots, dentals, previous illnesses. But when times got hard it just couldn't be. She cried on the phone the first time I talked to her " I swear I was a good mom to her...I did all I could". I could hear the compassion in her voice. This is when I knew I had to do something. She was so grateful of everyone's generosity. My plan was to foster this girl until I could find her a home. Or get her in Maltese rescue. But she didn't make it. I thank all who donated without even knowing her. Some other posts have upset me which is why I had stopped posting before...I will be giving the left over funds to gypsy....even though this is an elective surgery..... I can totally understand why some donated to Missy over gypsy. But in the end gypsy will have her surgery.

Seeing everyone get together for a cause reminded me why I loved coming here...but also reminded me why I stopped. I hope I can forget and return to help again.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
12,783 Posts
I won't say my feelings towards the person who took her for 2 months but I know her mom really cared for her. I could hear it in her voice. She had called out clinic a week before she was real sick b/c she heard about me and she hoped I would take her in or know of a good home for her. I considered it but I was so busy at work I hadn't gotten a chance to post about her. The she became I'll and her mom knew she couldn't afford to bring her in so she waited to see if it would pass. From her past history she was well cared for being shots, dentals, previous illnesses. But when times got hard it just couldn't be. She cried on the phone the first time I talked to her " I swear I was a good mom to her...I did all I could". I could hear the compassion in her voice. This is when I knew I had to do something. She was so grateful of everyone's generosity. My plan was to foster this girl until I could find her a home. Or get her in Maltese rescue. But she didn't make it. I thank all who donated without even knowing her. Some other posts have upset me which is why I had stopped posting before...I will be giving the left over funds to gypsy....even though this is an elective surgery..... I can totally understand why some donated to Missy over gypsy. But in the end gypsy will have her surgery.

Seeing everyone get together for a cause reminded me why I loved coming here...but also reminded me why I stopped. I hope I can forget and return to help again.
Thank you for sharing this, Jaimie. I can't imagine how hard this must have been on her (and you) *hugs you*
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
10,743 Posts
I didn't find out about Missy's need until it was too late,I still would have given,her situation was an emergency,not elective. Just like little Snowball,the puppy from a puppy mill from PA. A fluff in need really tugs at the heartstrings..


I thought about Missy's situation too,how hard it was for her former owner. I went to Florida for a friend's graduation and took my 2 adoptees to see their first owner. I had mixed feelings. She couldn't take them w/ her due to a divorce but when her ex husband died she didn't take them back because her boyfriend didn't want dogs.

For me that would be a deal breaker....kick that dude to the curb!

She's since married this guy,who's now suffering from cancer.
I took them to see her because I think she still cares in her own way,but chose a man over her dogs...her loss my gain.

They remembered her and went crazy seeing her,but after they settled down,they came over and sat on my lap,while she visited.So I guess,they do know who their mommy is. We all went to an outdoor restaurant and they both stayed close to me.
In the end I think I did the right thing,she got to see how well they look and she commented on how happy they are.

If she hadn't called me last October,to take them in,they would have been euthanized,she loved them enough to let them go to a home where they'd be loved. It may seem selfish to give them up ,but if your fluff isn't a high priority,then let them find a home where they will be....no shame in that.

As for pooping on the bed,been there,seen it, "poo" happens.You wash the sheets and go on. They rarely have that accident,usually it's a "hitchhiker" I miss.
We cover our couch w/ blankets so the dogs can sit w/ us,in case of dirty feet or "hitchhikers"...that's what you do for dogs,not get rid of them if they poop on the bed....
I think Missy was surrounded by a lot of love,from all over..maybe her owner couldn't face the end. My husband didn't stay in the room w/ me when our first dog had to go to the bridge,he's regretted it ever since and is there for all the ones that leave us now.
I wish only peace to the owner,the peace she gave to Missy in the end after Dr.Jamie and so many tried so hard to save her.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
20,073 Posts
There's always another side to the story. I just knew there was a pup in real trouble so I gave what I could. I just wish she would have made it, it's just plain sad. For everyone involved.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,885 Posts
I think Missy was surrounded by a lot of love,from all over..maybe her owner couldn't face the end. My husband didn't stay in the room w/ me when our first dog had to go to the bridge,he's regretted it ever since and is there for all the ones that leave us now.
I wish only peace to the owner,the peace she gave to Missy in the end after Dr.Jamie and so many tried so hard to save her.
There's always another side to the story. I just knew there was a pup in real trouble so I gave what I could. I just wish she would have made it, it's just plain sad. For everyone involved.

I agree.
I needed to help that little dog, whatever the circumstances that led to her being in that situation. I'm happy that we all tried, and that we came together to help a fluff who desperately needed it.
 
1 - 20 of 41 Posts
Top