Update on my less than desirable neighbour ...

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Harley & Dakotas Mum

Discussion Starter · Jul 30, 2010

Some of you may have read my post on my pile of dirt :
http://spoiledmaltese.com/forum/64-picture-posts/107097-my-victory-today.html

I thank you all for your suggestions & comments, and I took them all on board ... I even thought about implementing some of the suggestions ...

Yesterday, I watched (with my mouth hanging open) my neigbhour drive over the tiny bit of my lawn not covered by the stakes & tape..... she then slowed to look, not once, but twice to see if you could tell where she had driven. This is exactly why I avoid her at all costs!!

Today, I saw her do the exact same thing - several times, coming & going ...

Then it hit me!! ..... I am going to rise above it. I am no longer interested in where the *lady* nextdoor drives her car .... who cares? I've wasted far too much energy letting this get to me!! Happy days ahead!

:chili:

I'm not quite sure what I am going to do with the pile of dirt yet .... its winter, so it's not good growing time. In a couple of months, I will probably rake it out to try & even up the land out there & hope the grass will grow.

In the mean time, I'm going to get busy getting my garden ready for spring!! B) I can't do anything about that land out there, but I can make my own garden look pretty!! :thumbsup:

Thanks all for letting me vent.

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iheartbisou

· #2 · Jul 30, 2010

omg, I feel so badly for you..to have a neighbor like this. What a total nutjob.

But you're so right and have the right attitude. It's not what happens (to you), it's only how you react to it. I think with a neighbor like this, you don't have a choice other than to be positive and go about your business..because it could really escalate into something from a movie (a dark comedy sort of movie). lol.

Good luck!!!! xoxo

Harley & Dakotas Mum

Discussion Starter · #3 · Jul 30, 2010

iheartbisou said:
omg, I feel so badly for you..to have a neighbor like this. What a total nutjob.

But you're so right and have the right attitude. It's not what happens (to you), it's only how you react to it. I think with a neighbor like this, you don't have a choice other than to be positive and go about your business..because it could really escalate into something from a movie (a dark comedy sort of movie). lol.

Good luck!!!! xoxo

LOL @ Dark Comedy!! It really was heading that way ... I actually laughed at myself for getting a pile of dirt out there!!!:HistericalSmiley:

You're exactly right - I have no choice - so I am going to carry on enjoying my first home (we haven't even been here 6 months yet!), I can lock the gates so Harley & Dakota are safe - thats all that matters

:aktion033:

Nikki's Mom

· #4 · Jul 30, 2010

Enjoy your home. You have the right attitude.

Maybe you can write a book about crazy neighbors someday.

Snowball Pie's Mommi

· #5 · Jul 30, 2010

Harley & Dakotas Mum said:
LOL @ Dark Comedy!! It really was heading that way ... I actually laughed at myself for getting a pile of dirt out there!!!:HistericalSmiley:

You're exactly right - I have no choice - so I am going to carry on enjoying my first home (we haven't even been here 6 months yet!), I can lock the gates so Harley & Dakota are safe - thats all that matters :aktion033:[/QUOTE

Dark comedy is right! If it were me ... I'd want to place some hidden spikes in the dirt pile ... So, that when she drives her car over the dirt pile ... The air in her tires would deflate! :HistericalSmiley:

I know ... I'm bad. :chili:

The A Team

· #6 · Jul 30, 2010

Jac, I was so mad at your neighbor too! But you just gave me a sigh of relief. I had never thought of that! :blush::thumbsup:

Life is too short. I still can't imagine why someone would go out of their way to try and make someone else miserable. *scratching head*

Maybe you should put a little sign on top of the dirt hill saying...
"you win" and leave it at that.

Maglily

· #7 · Jul 30, 2010

Great idea!! We always have the solution but it's not always obvious, I will keep this in mind for any snarly situations I may get into, thanks.

You know that gaping mouth image had me thinking of the spying neighbor, Gladys Kravitz on Betwitched.:HistericalSmiley:

the bad part of me wants to put a little sign on the top of that dirt pile for when she parks next time that says..."Third Time's the Charm!":innocent:

(Pat I just read your post above LOL :thumbsup

Snowbody

· #8 · Jul 30, 2010

Hopefully bad Karma will take care of your inconsiderate, nut job of a neighbor. Love your fence in the video of Dakota running around, so enjoy what's inside - your home, your yard, your fence and most of all Harley and Dakota. :chili:

Tina

· #9 · Jul 30, 2010

There are always people looking for a fight. Sometimes you don't even know why. I love your attitude. It's great!!:thumbsup:

Maidto2Maltese

· #10 · Jul 31, 2010

Was wondering if you could plant a tree/shrub (s) that would prevent her from infringing on the property and it still would be pretty in front of your home? ...or maybe a HUUUUGGGGEEE boulder LOL

mss

· #11 · Jul 31, 2010

Oooh, some nice prickly holly, or some kind of tree that leaves sap on the car.

The A Team

· #12 · Jul 31, 2010

Jac...I just thought of something......incase you start feeling devious again...:innocent:

spread some tacks or nails out there......

.....just remember.....you didn't hear that from me....

maltlovereileen

· #13 · Jul 31, 2010

I know you are taking the zen approach which is best for your mental health & the safety of your dogs (who wants to antagonize an already obviously unstable person who has made menacing comments?)... but OMG she sounds absofriggenluely PSYCHO mean. Ya gotta wonder what kind of emptiness she must have inside her to make her so awful (thinking of that Jack Nicholson movie from awhile back (As Good As It Gets)

I'm so sorry she's taken some of the shine off your new home... here's hoping she moves soon or gets locked up in a padded cell somewhere Soon

Matilda's mommy

· #14 · Jul 31, 2010

Harley & Dakotas Mum said:
Some of you may have read my post on my pile of dirt :
http://spoiledmaltese.com/forum/64-picture-posts/107097-my-victory-today.html

I thank you all for your suggestions & comments, and I took them all on board ... I even thought about implementing some of the suggestions ...

Yesterday, I watched (with my mouth hanging open) my neigbhour drive over the tiny bit of my lawn not covered by the stakes & tape..... she then slowed to look, not once, but twice to see if you could tell where she had driven. This is exactly why I avoid her at all costs!!

Today, I saw her do the exact same thing - several times, coming & going ...

Then it hit me!! ..... I am going to rise above it. I am no longer interested in where the *lady* nextdoor drives her car .... who cares? I've wasted far too much energy letting this get to me!! Happy days ahead! :chili:

I'm not quite sure what I am going to do with the pile of dirt yet .... its winter, so it's not good growing time. In a couple of months, I will probably rake it out to try & even up the land out there & hope the grass will grow.

In the mean time, I'm going to get busy getting my garden ready for spring!! B) I can't do anything about that land out there, but I can make my own garden look pretty!! :thumbsup:

Thanks all for letting me vent.

Jacqui what wisdom you have, being nice to someone like that is what I call heaping hot coals over their head. there really is so much more in life to stress about. You made my day, Thank You I wish I could meet you

Starsmom

· #15 · Jul 31, 2010

Harley & Dakotas Mum said:
Some of you may have read my post on my pile of dirt :
http://spoiledmaltese.com/forum/64-picture-posts/107097-my-victory-today.html

I thank you all for your suggestions & comments, and I took them all on board ... I even thought about implementing some of the suggestions ...

Yesterday, I watched (with my mouth hanging open) my neigbhour drive over the tiny bit of my lawn not covered by the stakes & tape..... she then slowed to look, not once, but twice to see if you could tell where she had driven. This is exactly why I avoid her at all costs!!

Today, I saw her do the exact same thing - several times, coming & going ...

Then it hit me!! ..... I am going to rise above it. I am no longer interested in where the *lady* nextdoor drives her car .... who cares? I've wasted far too much energy letting this get to me!! Happy days ahead! :chili:

I'm not quite sure what I am going to do with the pile of dirt yet .... its winter, so it's not good growing time. In a couple of months, I will probably rake it out to try & even up the land out there & hope the grass will grow.

In the mean time, I'm going to get busy getting my garden ready for spring!! B) I can't do anything about that land out there, but I can make my own garden look pretty!! :thumbsup:

Thanks all for letting me vent.

Good attitude. My friend has a saying that fits your situation - I'll be angry with you when it's convenient for me."

Hope you have a splendid garden!

Hunter's Mom

· #16 · Aug 3, 2010

You are better than me - it would bother me to no end.

I guess I don't understand why she is driving on your land, she has a road and a driveway and her own land in front - I just don't get it!

edelweiss

· #17 · Aug 3, 2010

"I guess I don't understand why she is driving on your land, she has a road and a driveway and her own land in front - I just don't get it!"
Erin---you are right! Apparently the neighbor "just doesn't get it either!"

maltlovereileen

· #18 · Aug 3, 2010

Maybe she is trying to make it look bad as hers subconsciously

(since so much has been greatly improved yard/house compared to as it was before) People can be so petty

I think I'd line my driveway with a few of those tall planter pots because it would really bother me even though I would try not to let it

MalteseJane

· #19 · Aug 3, 2010

I like Terry's idea of a huge boulder ! Or you could put some cement planter pot (huge ones) and put some flowers or shrubs in it.

Harley & Dakotas Mum

Discussion Starter · #20 · Aug 21, 2010 (Edited)

Thank you everyone!!

I leave for work each day before dawn, and dont arrive home until after dusk (its winter

), so I only really get to have a good look at things at weekends ..... (daylight savings starts in Oct! YAY!!!)

I got a good look out there today .... and she is totally TRASHING the tiny bit of space that isn't pegged off!!

I have to admit, even though I am trying VERY hard to rise above it .... its starting to get to me again!!!

This pic you can see in bottom right hand side where she drives ... She has her own driveway!!!!!!!:smilie_tischkante: I don't know why she keeps doing this!!!!:smpullhair:

And this 2nd pic shows a close-up. I know it doesn't look THAT bad right now, but it's only been about 3 weeks now, so I'm just wondering how bad it's going to end up:smstarz: :smpullhair:

Plus, that pile of dirt is starting to bug me too!! I'm going to have to do something with it sooner or later .....

As much as I want to avoid her as much as possible, I'm starting to think I might need to go knock on her door & ask her not to do it!!? The other option is to speak to the council & ask them what I can do ... I know they have a section for neighbourhood mediation (LOL sounds crazy, I know!!) but I don't think they can do anything until I actually confront her about it .... *sigh*

Thanks for letting me vent ... again.....

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