That does change things. As someone already said, you may not know the whole story. But even if you it is what it appears it really isn't something that you can or should do anything about (bad as you feel). I would simply send my regrets, no excuse needed, and not attend.Thanks everyone. I am really struggling with this decision. I guess I shouldn't have said that she and I are good friends, we are more good work acquaintances (we work closely and on a daily basis whether it is on the phone or face to face) and she is inviting me because she is inviting the whole department. Therefore, no, I do not feel comfortable confronting her in her decision. She has mentioned that she is having this large wedding because she never got to do the big "white-wedding" with her first marriage.
I agree wholeheartedly with you! You hit the nail on the head! What you stated is exactly the problem I am having. Do I judge her on how she choose to spend her money? This is a moral decision for me! I try to never judge anyone. What someone does it completely their own business, but this one really has me upset.
I often travel for my job, so I am going to try and schedule a business trip for that weekend.
I also agree with iheartbisou, I try not to mix my work and personal life.
We often judge people without knowing the whole story and there may be many things going on in this persons life that you are not aware of.