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Just a little over view I work at a Human Resources consulting and outsourcing firm... in my office we are the mediator between a company and a health care provider... It's my best friend from work last day today and I'm really sad
. Well my friend is our managers little "pet" she knows it... we all know it... well, when Laura (my friend) first made the announcement she was leaving it was sort of bittersweet, because she is moving to Vegas to be with her boyfriend who got transferred for work, so we were all really happy for her, but then things started to change. At first I felt as though my manager was trying to make me Laura, she was trying to gossip with me, and act like we were best friends and I was like 'I don't feel comfortable talking about this' blah blah blah... Last week, I had my first performance review and all of my peers had wonderful things to say about me and my manager couldn't find anything negative (which really seemed to piss her off), so she started to attack other things... I mean it got so detailed she was talking about my boobs. So I told her 'Listen, I am really not comfortable with this, I am very self-conscious and this isn't helping,' but the subject was dropped. Well for the rest of the week she kept coming up to me and just putting me down so I emailed our regional manager (her boss). He just happened to be in on Tuesday so I sat down with him and talked to him for over an hour. He definitely was backing me and made me feel much better... until today.
We are really lucky at work, we have our own cafeteria and we get free lunch everyday. Well, there were 5 of us in the lunch room (myself, my friend, my manager, a male worker, and a female coworker) waiting for lunch when my manager yells out 'Natalie look at all of your cleavage' (mind you I was bending down, so it looks a little bigger) my friend snapped at my manager 'excuse me, that is completely uncalled for.' My manager just laughs and says 'well look at her' (at this point I was sweating because I was BRIGHT red), my friend stepped in again, 'That was completely uncalled for, apologize.' So of course my manager, brushed it off and was like 'sorry.' Well, by this point the other two who were not involved in the conversation walked out of the room and I then excused myself to go to the bathroom, just to look at myself and reassure myself I didn't look like a hooker!
About 20 minutes after lunch my manager came up to me and pulled me into a conference room (I was just waiting for this)... she said 'Now Natalie, we both know you are very well endowed (yes, I have big boobs) and I'm sorry for what I said, but you have to start watching what you wear to work.'
I almost lost it. Because she said something totally uncalled for she turned it around on me and said I was not following our dress code.
Let me tell you what I am wearing... I have on gray slacks, a white button up blouse (which is buttoned to the tip) and a black cardigan on over it. There is nothing inappropriate with what I am wearing and I am really really really really really mad. So anyway, I just needed to vent. I've already talked to my managers' manager and my HR rep, so we will see where this goes... I hate don't like this at all, I don't like to ruin things that are going smoothly but really, there is nothing else I can do.
I am just so upset right now yet my fingers are typing so darn fast!
Thank you for listening to me vent. I really appreciate it.

We are really lucky at work, we have our own cafeteria and we get free lunch everyday. Well, there were 5 of us in the lunch room (myself, my friend, my manager, a male worker, and a female coworker) waiting for lunch when my manager yells out 'Natalie look at all of your cleavage' (mind you I was bending down, so it looks a little bigger) my friend snapped at my manager 'excuse me, that is completely uncalled for.' My manager just laughs and says 'well look at her' (at this point I was sweating because I was BRIGHT red), my friend stepped in again, 'That was completely uncalled for, apologize.' So of course my manager, brushed it off and was like 'sorry.' Well, by this point the other two who were not involved in the conversation walked out of the room and I then excused myself to go to the bathroom, just to look at myself and reassure myself I didn't look like a hooker!
About 20 minutes after lunch my manager came up to me and pulled me into a conference room (I was just waiting for this)... she said 'Now Natalie, we both know you are very well endowed (yes, I have big boobs) and I'm sorry for what I said, but you have to start watching what you wear to work.'
I almost lost it. Because she said something totally uncalled for she turned it around on me and said I was not following our dress code.
Let me tell you what I am wearing... I have on gray slacks, a white button up blouse (which is buttoned to the tip) and a black cardigan on over it. There is nothing inappropriate with what I am wearing and I am really really really really really mad. So anyway, I just needed to vent. I've already talked to my managers' manager and my HR rep, so we will see where this goes... I hate don't like this at all, I don't like to ruin things that are going smoothly but really, there is nothing else I can do.
I am just so upset right now yet my fingers are typing so darn fast!
